When we pick up something heavy, it’s usually due to a trauma. It could be as simple as not meeting our own expectations and feeling regret. We pick up that regret and carry it. Eventually, more and more painful experiences get added, and now we’re trying to be of service while lugging this heavy burden along with us.
Often, when we go through a trauma, we try to bury it through alcohol, drugs, overworking, or other means. This behavior impacts ourselves and also our work, co-workers, friends, and family members. So, how can we identify these heavy weights we are carrying around? Pay attention to our reactions when someone pushes our buttons or triggers us. That’s a clear sign that we’re holding onto something that we need to recognize and let go of.
We can’t let go of everything at once. But by examining each thing and choosing to acknowledge and release it, we will decrease our burden and increase our ability to serve. When we learn to become mindful of one thing at a time, we lesson our burdens and gain resilience. In this way, we release the obstacles that prevent us from freely being of service, and of being the best we can be at work and at home.